I met Desmond in the waiting room outside Dr. Whitfield’s office back in month three. We started talking because we were both terrified in the exact same particular way — scared of leaving a wife pregnant with a child neither of us was sure we’d get to hold.
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He told me about his own diagnosis, considerably more advanced than mine at the time. I watched him get weaker over the following months, faster than either of us expected, and somewhere in there, I started thinking about what it would actually mean if my heart could end up doing for him exactly what I hoped it might do for a stranger anyway.
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I asked Dr. Whitfield about directed donation the week after Desmond told me his own transplant window was closing. It took several weeks of paperwork, testing, and ethics approval to actually make it possible. I didn’t tell you because I needed to know it would actually happen before I let myself hope out loud about it, and because some part of me wanted this decision to belong entirely to me, the last thing I got to give completely on my own terms.
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I had to stop reading for a moment, Dr. Whitfield sliding a box of tissues across the small table without comment.
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I know I won’t meet our daughter. I’ve made peace with that, as much as a person can make peace with something like that. What I couldn’t make peace with was the idea of Desmond’s daughter growing up without her father too, if there was anything at all I could do about it.
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Renata, Desmond’s wife, doesn’t know about any of this yet either, unless the timing worked out the way we hoped. Dr. Whitfield has her contact information, if you ever want to reach out. I understand completely if you need time, or if you never want to. This isn’t a debt either of you owes anyone. It’s just something I wanted to be true, if I could make it true.
