Sometimes I look at those photographs and think about how much life can change in a single year.
I lost my husband.
I discovered
that my oldest friend had kept a secret for more than four decades.
I learned that Robert had known something I hadn’t.
And for a while, I wondered whether any of the relationships I’d trusted were what I believed them to be.
But time taught me something unexpected.
A secret can change the way you understand the past without erasing every good thing that happened within it.
Susan’s silence hurt me.
Robert’s decision hurt me too.
Forgiving them didn’t mean pretending those choices were harmless.
It meant accepting that people
can love us deeply and still make mistakes.
Susan and I still talk about what happened.
Sometimes those conversations are difficult.
Sometimes I ask questions she wishes I’d asked years earlier.
